7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

Habit 4

4. Think Win- Win

Your teen will learn to celebrate the accomplishment of others instead of being threatened by them. Win-Win is a belief that everyone can win. Win-Win is abundant. It’s a belief that there’s plenty of success to go around. It’s not either you or me. It’s both of us. It’s not the matter of who gets the biggest piece of the pie. There’s more than enough food for everyone. It’s an all-you-can-eat buffet.

       Win-win always creates more. Perhaps the most surprising benefit of thinking Win-Win is the good feelings it brings on. The true test of whether or not you are thinking Win-Win or one of the alternatives is how you feel. Win-Lose and Lose-Win thinking will cloud your judgment and fill you with negative feelings.

       Win-Win will fill your heart with happy and serene thoughts. It will give you confidence. Even fill you with light. Think Win-Win or no deal.

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7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

Habit 3

Habit 3: Put Things First

Habit three is about Will and Will Not power. This power helps teens prioritize and manage their time so that they focus on and complete the most important things in their lives. Putting first things first also means learning to overcome fears and being strong during difficult times. It’s living life according to what matters most. Putting first things first deals with things that are:

Important or not important, urgent or not urgent. Let’s look at the four quadrants of time management.

Quadrant 1: Things that are Important and Urgent

Quadrant 2: Things that are Important but not Urgent

Quadrant 3: Things that are Not Important but are Urgent

Quadrant 4: Things that are not Important and Not Urgent

1.   Important and Urgent	2.   Important but not Urgent
3.   Not Important but are Urgent	4.   Not Important and Not Urgent

 

Quadrant 2 is the ideal place to spend our time, doing things that are important but not urgent. Here’s where priorities come into play. The results for living Quadrant 2 are:

1.    Control of your life

2.   Balance

3.   High Performance

 

So, in what quadrant are you spending most of your time? The key is to shift as much time into Quadrant 2 and this is accomplished by planning. Spend more time planning and incorporating the most important things first, things that matter most. Keep your eyes on the prize and reach for it.

 

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7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

Habit 2

Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind

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f teens aren’t clear about where they want to end up in life, about their values, goals, and what they stand for, they will wander, waste time, and be tossed to and fro by the options of others. Help your teen create a personal mission statement which will act as a road map and direct and guide his decision-making process.

“Keep your eyes on the prize.” Determine your desired prize and don’t quit until you have realized the achievement of your prize. Then set another prize, another goal or desire that you would really like to achieve. Begin with the achievement of your prize in mind. Visualize and then realize. Start by having a target in mind; know where you are going.

One prize or goal you definitely need to establish for yourself is the prize of an honorable graduation from high school – that you will receive your diploma honestly and with integrity – that you earned it with perfect honesty.

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7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

Habit 1

By: Sean covey (but modified)

Habit 1: Be Proactive.

Being proactive is the key to unlocking the other habits. Help your teen take control and responsibility for her life. Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don’t blame others for their own actions or feelings. Proactive people realize that the ball is in their court, that they are the captain for their own ship; that they are in control, control of their decisions, thoughts, choices, goals, actions, and priorities. Proactive people are self-starters; they don’t wait to be told what to do, they press forward with enthusiasm towards the achievement of their assignment, their duties, their responsibilities, their obligations. Choosing to do what is right is proactive decision. Obey the rules. Obey the law. Obey the coach. Obey the school policies. Obey your parents. Obey with exactness, all great things will come to you. Be proactive and take initiative.

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7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

By Sean Covey

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or teens, life is not a playground, it’s a jungle. And, being the parent of a teenage isn’t any walk in the park, either. In his book, The Habits of Highly Effective Teens, author Sean Covey attempts to provide “a compass to help teens and their parents navigate the problems they encounter daily.”

How will they deal with peer pressure? Motivation? Success or lack thereof? The life of a teenager is full of tough issues and life-changing decisions. As a parent, you are responsible to help them learn the principles and ethics that will help them to reach their goals and live a successful life.

 

While it’s all well and good to tell kids how to live their lives, “teens watch what you do more than they listen to what you say,” Covey says. So practice what you preach. Your example can be very influential.

Covey himself has done well by following a parent’s example. His dad, Stephen Covey, wrote the book The Habits of Highly Successful People, which sold over 15 million copies. Sean’s a chip of the old block, and no slacker. His own book has rung in a more than respectable 2 million copies sold. Here are seven habits, and some ideas for helping your teen understand and apply them.

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